The Self-Initiative Project
What is Asphalt Anthropology?

What is Asphalt Anthropology?

June 30, 2020

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 27, What is Asphalt Anthropology?

This episode we talk to Beverly Baker of Metropolitan Finishing School to talk about her program, Asphalt Anthropology. One thing is for sure, Beverly's finishing school has nothing to do with holding your tea cup...

We talk about there being more to personal safety and self-defense than just the physical aspects. We talk about the importance of understanding how criminals think and what they look for. We mention the importance of de-escalation and setting boundaries as well as where de-escalation may not be appropriate; and we also talk about how it is OK to be rude when you need to be.

It is mentioned again how important listening to your intuition is and how carrying yourself in the right way can help you avoid many potentially bad situations. Beverly makes the point that paying attention to your surroundings has nothing to do with being paranoid or being fearful. It has to do with improving one's situational awareness; and you can do that by simply engaging with your environment and being more curious.

We talk about how compassion can have a place the self-defense world. Discerning between the need to defend yourself or getting away and potentially listening to your gut when you see someone that may need help in a difficult situation.

We learn it is important to recognize that in self-defense there is not one solution that works for everyone and that you need to find the classes and the training you feel solves the issues you believe are relevant to you. Beverly also reminds us it is pretty easy to avoid becoming a victim just by taking some really easy steps, i.e. avoiding that argument someone was trying to start with you or locking your doors.

Sit back. Relax. And listen.

 

What if… ? The Importance of Thinking Through Scenarios

What if… ? The Importance of Thinking Through Scenarios

May 22, 2020

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 26, What if... ? The Importance of Thinking Through Scenarios

How can you start considering your personal safety or taking it more seriously? How can you be better prepared for disaster and things when they go sideways? Think through scenarios.

One of the best things you can do is think through scenarios in order to become better prepared. Thinking through possible situations, their outcomes, and what you would do can put you into a position of being better able to handle those situations. Because you have thought through things ahead of time, you are better able to formulate a plan, putting you in a position of advantage.

Thinking through things ahead of times allows us to see where we may have shortcomings, so we can address them; and most importantly, it allows us to put a plan in place ahead of time.

Don't have the time to think about your personal safety? You can think through scenarios at any time, including in the car or even in the shower.

Be better prepared. Learn areas where you may need some training. Think through scenarios and what you would do. Get a plan in place ahead of time, before you need one.

What would you do if... ?

Thanks for listening.

Situational Awareness and More

Situational Awareness and More

May 1, 2020

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 25, Situational Awareness and More

I sit down with Kelly Sayre, of The Diamond Arrow Group, to talk about situational awareness.

We talk about what situational awareness is and what it takes to notice things that may be out of place or may just be not quite right. Kelly and I discuss the importance listening to your intuition, your gut, your sixth sense, so you can better be able to respond if something bad is happening. And we talk about your willingness to set AND enforce boundaries.

We discuss the main reason why some folks feel they cannot dedicate more energies to their personal safety and some really easy ways to get started.

Women and men alike will want to listen to this episode.

Sit back. Relax. And listen.

How to Buy a Gun and What to Expect

How to Buy a Gun and What to Expect

March 28, 2020

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 24, How to Buy a Gun and What to Expect

Ben Powell, of Bullseye Indoor Range and Gun Shop in Lawrenceville, GA, joins us to talk about how to buy guns and what you can expect.

Ben and I talk about what is involved in purchasing a firearm including Class III, how to go about finding the right gun for you, and safety in the gun shop. We even manage to dispell some myths like the infamous "gun show loophole."

Ever consider purchasing a gun but did not really know what to expect or are you on the fence because you are not sure what you are getting yourself into? Well wonder no more as Ben and I cover the basics and then some here in Episode 24.

On a sidebar note... We have now been doing The Self-Initiative Project Podcast for 2 years officially. Twenty four episodes down with more to come. Thanks to all of you for your support, and be sure to tell all your family and friends about us.

Thank you for listening.

Why be Invested in Your Personal Safety

Why be Invested in Your Personal Safety

February 26, 2020

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 23, Why be Invested in Your Personal Safety

It is more like: Why are you not invested in your own personal safety?

The Secure Dad joins us as we talk about how to get people interested in their own personal safety. Andy and I discuss the things that caused us to first become more invested in our personal safety and how that changed our thinking overall.

We indirectly talk on the subject of why folks should be invested in their own personal safety and that of their loved ones. We even discuss why some feel it is unnecessary to be concerned with it. Most importantly, we talk about ways to begin thinking about it and incorporating ideas and practices into your life.

No one is there to save you; and 911 may or may not get to you on time. What are you going to do? Do you at least have a plan?

Ultimately, we are all responsible for our own personal safety and preparedness.

Sit back. Relax. And listen.

It Depends, If You’re Ryan Hoover

It Depends, If You’re Ryan Hoover

December 22, 2019

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 21, It Depends, If You're Ryan Hoover

Ryan Hoover, of Fit to Fight, and I talk about ideologies that go beyond simple slogans and taglines and discuss aspects of self-defense generally in context of Krav Maga.

We talk about the realities of learning self-defense and that it is really about learning how to fight. Hear what is generally wrong with a lot of self-defense training today, and why "it depends..." might be one of the most hated responses from a self-defense or fighting coach. And we talk about why you have got to get uncomfortable to really make any progress.

Ryan and I talk about some of the fallacies of learning self-defense including why it's usually not a stranger women have to contend with or how gun and knife defense may not be accurately portrayed and what's right and wrong with teaching those topics today.

This is one, if you are taking responsibility for your own personal safety, you need to listen to, especially if you want an honest look at what you should expect.

Sit back. Relax. And listen.

The Best Self-Defense Tools to Carry

The Best Self-Defense Tools to Carry

October 1, 2019

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 18, The Best Self-Defense Tools to Carry

Guns, knives, OC (pepper) spray, personal alarms, finger grips for house keys, hard plastic shaped like cat heads with pointy ears, rape whistles, kubatons, brass 'paper weights,' and others...

Whatever it is, we have likely heard of or seen many of these self-defense tools. It seems they will try to sell anything as a viable self-defense option to be your go-to choice for protecting yourself. They may even try, directly or indirectly, to convince you their product is the best to have for self-defense purposes.

Maybe you will not get to that firearm in time. Maybe that sharp-eared cat object will get you in more legal trouble than you realized if you use it. Maybe that alarm noise is just going to agitate an attacker while everyone else ignores it. Maybe that pepper spray does not work so well because you spray yourself by mistake or miss your target entirely.

I am going to suggest and try to convince you of something different. Awareness (situational) and avoidance...  We have all heard about them before, so this will not be the first time these topics have been discussed. However, I am here to tell you there are a lot of things that have gone wrong before having to use any one of the tools listed above becomes an option.

Knowing where the exits are, noticing persons out of place, not walking down that dark alleyway even though it is a short-cut, listening to your intuition, or not vacationing in questionable areas are all examples of things that can keep or get you out of trouble before trouble even gets started.

Situational awareness and avoidance are probably 2 of if not the best 2 'tools' you have or should put into your self-defense arsenal. With a little practice and effort, you can easily incorporate them into your plan.

The best things about practicing situational awareness and avoidance is that while they both take some effort, they cost nothing; and both can save you a lot of hassle by keeping you out of situations where the other tools may need to come into play.

While they cannot solve or prevent every issue, situational awareness and avoidance should always be your primary, carry 'tools.'

Stay frosty.

Thanks for listening.

Meditations on Learning to Fight and Self-Defense

Meditations on Learning to Fight and Self-Defense

August 31, 2019

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 17, Meditations on Learning to Fight and Self-Defense

Jesse Walker of Rough Hands, in Louisville, KY and I talk about approaches to learning to fight and self-defense both in terms of finding a school that works for you and trying to be a better coach. We talk about fighting in the context of self-defense and fighting for your life in this episode.

We discuss the very things you think that may keep you from starting to take classes are the exact reasons why you should start; and we talk about honesty in training as well as teaching, and the importance of a school's culture.

Lots of points are made during this podcast including the fact that in order to be really be good at self-defense you have to be a student of violence; and hopefully, through your training, you are better prepared to deal with any violence that may happen out on the streets. Jesse stresses the importance of principles over techniques; and he talks about how learning to fight can be actually be just like swimming...

Get used to being uncomfortable and go train!

Sit back. Relax. And listen.

Knife Use in Self-Defense

Knife Use in Self-Defense

June 30, 2019

The Self-Initiative Project, Podcast 15, Knife Use in Self-Defense

Nathan TwoEagles-Downing, from Silverline Knife Designs, talks about the use of knives in self-defense and some points to consider before you opt to incorporate a knife into your self-defense toolset.

We talk about Nathan's journey into knife making, his training preferences, the times he has been on the receiving end of a blade, the mindset of someone intent on using a knife, and some commonalities between carrying knives and carrying firearms for self-defense.

You should listen whether you are already carrying knives or are considering carrying a knife for self-defense purposes.

Sit back. Relax. And listen.